PEAS AND CARROTS....

WERE THE WORDS FORREST GUMP USED TO DESCRIBE HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS JENNY. THEY WERE LIKE PEAS AND CARROTS, THEY JUST "WENT TOGETHER". WELL, THIS IS NOT THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN MY CHILDREN. THEY ARE MORE LIKE NIGHT AND DAY,AND ALL METAPHORS IN BETWEEN. AND WHY SHOULDN'T THEY BE DIFFERENT, THEIR OWN INDIVIDUALS WITH THEIR OWN OPINIONS AND OWN SENSE OF BEING. THEY ARE TWO DIFFERENT BEINGS,AND I KNEW THIS LONG BEFORE THEY WERE EVER BORN. I HAD TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT PREGNANCIES. IN THE WOMB, CAIDEN MOVED CONSTANTLY, AS WHERE BAILEE DID NOT. I CAN REMEMBER VIVIDLY WAKING UP IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT BECAUSE I WAS SCARED SOMETHING WAS WRONG WITH BAILEE. SHE JUST DID NOT MOVE AS MUCH AS CAIDEN, AND THAT SCARED ME.SOON AFTER SHE WAS BORN I REALIZED THAT SHE WAS PASSIVE AND LAID BACK, AS WHERE CAIDEN WAS HIGH-STRUNG AND HYPER. I DO NOT WANT THEM TO BE ALIKE, BECAUSE THAT ALLOWS NO GROWTH IN SELF-ACCEPTANCE AND THEM BEING THIER OWN INDIVIDUALS. I LOVE THEM BECAUSE THEY ARE DIFFERENT, MY LOVE FOR THEM IS THE SAME, BUT IS DIFFERENT FOR EACH ONE. CAIDEN LOVES TO HAVE SOMEONE TO PLAY WITH. HE FEELS HE HAS TO HAVE CONSTANT HANDS ON INTERACTION. HE JUST FEELS THE NEED FOR SOMEONE TO BE RIGHT THERE. CONFORMATION IS IMPORTANT TO HIM. HE NEVER HAS A MESSY ROOM AND RARELY SAYS ANYTHING ABOUT WHAT CLOTHES I HAVE OUT FOR HIM TO WEAR. NOW MY BAILEE, SHE IS QUITE DIFFERENT. BAILEE HAS A AMAZING IMAGINATION, AND CAN PLAY BY HERSELF. SHE DOESN'T NEED CONSTANT INTERACTION, AGAIN THAT GOES BACK TO MY PREGNANCIES, I "KNEW" THEY WERE DIFFERENT. BAILEE LOVES TO SING AND DANCE, AND PLAY SCHOOL. SHE REALLY DOESN'T LIKE TO READ MUCH, AS WHERE CAIDEN LOVES TO READ. SHE LOVES TO BE PRAISED BUT DOES NOT ASK FOR IT. CAIDEN LOVES TO ALSO, BUT HE DEMANDS IT FOR HIS OWN SELF-ESTEEM AMD SELF-CONFIDENCE. BAILEE'S ROOM IS ALWAYS MESSY AND I HAVE TO BE ON HER CONSTANTLY TO CLEAN IT UP. BUT WHEN SHE DOES CLEAN IT, THERE IS SENSE OF SELF-PRIDE ON HER FACE, AND I QUICKLY FORGET HOW UPSET I WAS WITH HER. THERE IS ONE THING THAT THEY ARE ALIKE ON,"FAMILY TOGETHERNESS". THEY BOTH LOVE FOR OUR FAMILY TO BE TOGETHER, AND FOR US TO BE A FAMILY. HEY, IF THEY CAN BE ALIKE ON THIS, THEN I AM TRULY BLESSED!!