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Thursday, July 03, 2008

OUT WITH THE OLD; IN WITH THE NEW

I NOTICED A LOT OF CHANGES IN MY CHILDREN'S ROOMS TODAY WHEN I WAS STRAIGHTENING UP THE HOUSE. I DIDN'T SEE THE OLD TOYS THAT THEY USE TO PLAY WITH. I DIDN'T SEE LITTLE TOY FIGURINES, LIKE STAR WARS OR POKEMON, AND I DIDN'T SEE LITTLE PLASTIC DOLL FIGURINES STRODE THROUGHOUT THE ROOM. THERE WERE NO CARTOON DVD'S AND CERTAINLY NO WORDS LIKE" HEY, LETS PLAY WITH THE SPIDERMAN WEB BLASTER". I SEE I-PODS AND PLAYSTATIONS, HANNA MONTANA SING-A-LONGS,AND YES SPORTS TROPHIES AND MEMORABILIA. MY CHILDREN ARE GROWING UP AND DOING IT FASTER THAN I WANT THEM TO. CAIDEN'S MENTAL CAPACITY IS FAR BEYOND HIS YEARS. THESE TOYS THAT HE USED TO PLAY WITH ARE NO LONGER A PART OF HIS LIFE. NO MORE PLAYING IN SANDBOX, OR SWINGING ON THE SWING SET. MY CHILDREN CONSIDER THESE THINGS TO BE "BABY" STUFF NOW. AND RIGHTFULLY SO, BECAUSE AS WE GROW OLDER, WE LEAVE BEHIND THOSE THINGS THAT WERE ONCE FAMILIAR TO US. WE HAVE TO LEARN THAT PUTTING UP THE OLD, WILL BRING IN NEW THINGS, NEW TRADITIONS, AND NEW HOBBIES TO HELP US GROW INTO OUR OWN INDIVIDUALS. YES, I AM A LITTLE SAD, BUT WE MUST LEARN TO PUT AWAY PAST THINGS AND WELCOME FUTURE THINGS. AS I SAID BEFORE, CHANGE IS INEVITABLE AND WE HAVE TO WELCOME IT WITH AN OPTIMISTIC ATTITUDE. SO, I ACCEPT IT WITH AN UNDERSTANDING THAT SOON AGAIN, WE HAVE TO BE OUT WITH THE OLD, AND IN WITH THE NEW, AGAIN, AND AGAIN, AND AGAIN. FOR CHANGE IS ALWAYS CHANGING.....

2 comments:

Sherri said...

:)
I had to smile when I read this because Caiden still very much plays when he is here. He and Patrick love getting on Patrick's floor with all of his action figures and acting out story lines with them. It's funny because Patrick doesn't play shoot em up games much, but that's something that he and Caiden still like to do together. I think that they bring out the "kid" in each other, which is good, don't you think? I feel sad to think of the day when the toys are gone, but hope that they will always have a playful spirit. Madison tends to gravitate towards the friends that will still play with her. So many of the girls her age and some younger seem to be done with playing a lot of the things that Madison enjoys, but there are certain ones who still will. She is in no hurry to grow up.
And of course Carter...well, you know him :)!
I remember sitting on Vicki and my bedroom floor playing Barbies the day before our 13th birthday and crying because we felt like we would have to put them away forever when we were teenagers. "sigh" I can't even think about putting Madison's up..she played with them all day yesterday.
However, like you said, it is also a joy to see them pass into each new phase of their lives! Indeed, it is a joy!

Danielle said...

sherri,thanks for your opinion. i think that it is great that Caiden does still play like a"kid" at your house. Children have many "sides" to them and thats why its great to have many diffrent friends. most of his friends that he hangs out with are into sports,video games and shooting beebee guns. It is great that Caiden does have different friends with different personalities. That's what helps shape and mold thier character. I would think his life would be pretty boring if all his friends were alike. Maybe thats why he loves to play with Patrick, because it is something familur, and that maybe he can still act like a "kid" around him.Caiden is one that doesn't welcome chang easliy, and he gets it honest, from me. Wow, itsn't it amazing that they can be a part of us and have our traits! I aslo think that Caiden does need to have friends that are different, with different personalities. This can help him form stable and lost lasting realtionships in the future! kinda like you said before, it would be boring if all my children were like other children. I am assuming(i know i shouldn't!) that Caiden would get tired of playing with the same friends over an over, but then again, he picks and chooses with freinds, when he wants to "hang out" with them, and somedays he wants no interaction with them becasue he wants to be with his dad. Caiden is pretty well-rounded and considers all angles of every situation and as well as his friends. He pretty much will lwt his friends "decide" what to play or play with. And i guess that is the situation or should i say relationship he has with Patrick. Of course, Patrick is his cousim so there will always be a special bond there.

Now, Bailee, on the other hand is diffrent. She decides who she is going to play with, and what they are going to play. She is a natural born leader, and gets that from her "I have to be in control" dad!! LOL i love you jerry, not knocking ya!! Its harder for Bailee to have many many friends because her personality somewhat makes people feel inferior. Bailee is very self-secured and feels she is the "balm". She still plays with her barbies but would die if anyone knew. I feel sad because she will always be my baby girl in my eyes.Oh well, change is envitable right?? thanks for your comment, as always i love you! our parenting skills are so much alike, with somewhat expections, but we have diffrent children with different personalites!!